Howard Men Dispel Myths
Published: Tuesday, December 5, 2006
Updated: Saturday, August 9, 2008 23:08
It's common to hear female Howard students complain about the quality of available men on campus, but the men on campus say that not all of them fit into the stereotypical roles.
"It seems unfair to have these stereotypes because not all black men are the same," said sophomore broadcast journalism major Ty Axson. "Black men typically feel they have to work hard just to prove themselves or deal with a woman's score from past relationships."
Many stereotypes floating around campus about Howard men are negative but junior administration of justice major Jon Armstrong feels that there are also positive stereotypes too.
"We get a bad reputation for being cheaters undeservingly," he said. "[Black women say] we haven't reached our potential, we're immature, [but they also say] we're intelligent, assertive and the future leaders of the black race."
To Armstrong, these negative stereotypes are only a challenge.
"Sometimes I can be offended by the stereotypes but in the same scope it helps me to be more motivated…[and] want to defy the stereotypes."
Sophomore architecture major Wansley said he is one of the "good guys," but acknowledges that there are those who do disrespect Howard women and that "it's a bit disheartening."
"My friends and I do so much to try and show that there are good guys, and when you see the guys doing the opposite of that and they outnumber you, it gets to the point it's like why try, because you don't see any changes coming about," he said.
Wansley contends that many Howard women don't want good men.
"They'll say ‘Jamil, nobody wants a gentleman, that's why you're still single,'"
Axson also puts fault for Howard men's behavior on the women.
"Men can dish out what women will take. If [men] give them McDonald's, [women] can accept McDonald's. If they want Red Lobster then they have to demand Red Lobster. You have to set yourself up to receive good treatment," he said.
The remedy to dispel the negative stereotypes is to first "give people a chance, trust a little bit more…be encouraging…[and] be open to how men think," according to Axson.